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For You, Birthparents
From Us, Carol and Baraxil.
We hope to meet you soon.

Please feel free to contact us directly anytime toll free at 1-888-895-8158 or carolandbaraxil@gmail.com. We’ll be happy to talk with you and answer any questions you have. You can also call our adoption attorney Michael Goldstein at 1-800-582-3678.

Thank you for taking the time to read this letter. It must be an incredibly overwhelming process, choosing an adoptive family for your baby, and even though we can’t begin to imagine what you’re going through right now, we want you know how much respect and admiration we have for you. Not everyone has the strength to choose adoption; in fact, you belong to a small, very special group of people. We know you must have a lot of questions, and more than anything we want you to feel comfortable with your decision. We hope this letter will show you how much love and warmth and laughter we have to share with the baby who will make our family complete.

Our names are Carol and Baraxil (pronounced Bear-a-zil.) He’s from the Basque Country, a region in the north of Spain, which he will tell you all about anytime you’d like to hear. He’s very proud! Me, I come from Phoenix. But even though he grew up in a small town in the Basque mountains, and I grew up in a big city in the Arizona desert, we are perfect for each other. Fairly early on in our relationship, we realized our mutual desire to raise a family together. We’ve both always wanted two children, and plan to adopt again as soon as possible.

-.  Meet, Talk, Love .-

But I’m getting ahead of myself. I should first tell you about how we began—it’s actually kind of romantic. We met in Madrid in 2001. I was there teaching English (ESL) and studying Spanish, and Baraxil had recently arrived to start a new job as a computer engineer. Mutual friends introduced us at a birthday party, and soon we started meeting in coffee shops for a language exchange. We would speak English for his practice, then Spanish for mine. We must have sounded like a couple of pre-schoolers with all of the mistakes we made, but we had a lot of fun and helped each other learn. Now we’re both fluent in both languages. 

Truth is, lots of Spanish men will use these “intercambios” as a way to hit on foreign women, so I was relieved that Baraxil didn’t do that. But after spending quite a bit of time together, I saw clearly how much we had in common. We’re both very active and can’t get enough of the outdoors, cycling, hiking and scuba diving; we both love movies and museums, and we’re crazy about travel. But more importantly, I saw the kind of person he was, warm and friendly and generous, a really sweet guy. But Baraxil, he still hadn’t given me any indication that he “liked” me. I thought, maybe this guy really does just want to practice his English. Then finally, one evening as we were saying goodbye in the subway, he kissed me. And we’ve been together ever since, eight years now. In 2004, we decided to make our lives here in the U.S., and we married in March 2005.

So what can we tell you about our relationship? Well, I know I’m biased, but I think it’s pretty special. We really respect each other, and we talk about everything; he’s not the kind of guy who keeps things inside. He’s open and warm, not to mention totally hilarious. We laugh all the time. (He can also cook, I mean, really cook.) But one of the things I love most about Baraxil in his inherent ability to accept others for who they are, to accept me for who I am, no judgment. Obviously, I’m not perfect, neither is he. But we love each other, always. Unconditionally. And we will love your baby the same way.

So now, maybe I should give him a chance! Here’s what he has to say about me: On the night I met Carol, one of the first things I noticed was how much she likes to laugh. Now that we are both a bit more mature and responsible, I can say that, besides being fun to live with, her warm personality, her intelligence, and her sense of humor make of her the perfect partner in life. She always makes her loved ones a priority; I have seen her take a flight the next morning, after hearing a relative was injured. And she is great with all of our friends’ and relatives’ babies and immediately connects with them. 

-.  We Get by With a Little Help… .-

I’m glad he brought up friends. We’ve got such a great group of people, both here in the states and in Spain, who love and support us. We really can’t express how lucky we feel to have the friends and family we do, and your baby will be just as lucky to have a group of such lovely people ready to shower him or her with attention and affection. Many of our friends have kids, too, who we love spending time and playing with. Two of our best friends, Alicia and Steve, are pregnant with their second daughter, which means she’ll be around the same age as the little one we’re lucky enough to adopt.

-.  Our Big Fat Basque Family .-

And there are plenty of kids in the family too. Baraxil may have grown up without brothers and sisters (his parents tried to have more children but were unable to) but he likely didn’t notice; he had tons of cousins to spend his time with. And now they are all having children—two just recently born, and two more on the way. A big, warm, loud, fun family, and they have always been so good to me. Even though I’m the first non-Basque member, and my Spanish was not so great when I first met them, they’ve always treated me with such kindness and respect. I remember I was so nervous the first time I met his parents, my hands wouldn’t stop sweating! Baraxil said, “Don’t worry, my parents are just normal people.” And they were.

And talk about anxious to be grandparents. They are extremely exited about our plans to adopt. The whole family is.

My family too! My family is smaller than Baraxil’s, but I am very close to my parents and my older sister Susan and nephew Nathan. My parents are both retired and would love to have us showing up for visits with their grandchild. I’m also very close to my cousins. One of them, my cousin Michelle, is just two years younger than me, and we spent a lot of time together as kids, so we’re really more like sisters. She and her husband Shannon have four children, four! And three of them are quite young. The youngest one, George, named after our grandfather, won’t be much older than the child Baraxil and I bring home. And even though our families don’t live right next door, we are lucky enough to have the means to visit them often, and always for the Christmas and Thanksgiving holidays. And they come to us as well, during the spring and summer, we always have a parade of visitors tramping through our house.   

-.  A Beautiful Life .-

Finally, we want to assure you that we are not only capable, but we are extremely ready to offer your baby a secure, healthy and beautiful life.

We are very responsible and financially stable people. We both work full-time now—me as a writer and editor and Baraxil as a computer consultant—but I have a flexible schedule and look forward to taking time off when the baby arrives. And later, I plan to work from home. By the way, I should mention our new home. After searching for months for the right place for our future family, we are excited and proud to say that we are about to move into our new home. A large three-bedroom in a very family-oriented neighborhood, with everything we need close by: good schools, a hospital, farmer’s markets and a huge park with a playground right next door!
 
I seriously cannot stop picturing us and our future children in that park, with all the other families in the neighborhood. Part of the reason we chose the place is because we have several friends with kids who live nearby. And because of the schools. We want to be sure our children have every opportunity to learn, explore different interests and express themselves as individuals. In fact, the thing we’re most excited about is the chance to teach a child whatever he or she wants to learn about life: to take her places, show her new things, and read to her every night.

But most important of all, we will love the child we bring home with everything we have in us. He or she will grow up in a home full of respect and empathy, love and laughter, with quiet moments cuddled in our arms, and big joyous family Christmases. We simply cannot imagine wanting anything more, or being more ready than we are right now to have a child come into our lives. We’ve been trying for a number of years to have a baby on our own, been through the fertility treatments and an emotional roller coaster ride. And it’s been really, really hard, facing disappointment after disappointment.

But we haven’t given up. We know a child is out there for us and that when he or she comes along, our family and our lives will be complete. Hopefully, you are the ones who can help us get there. 

Thank you again, so, so much for taking the time to get to know us. We are honored that you are considering us as the adoptive parents for your baby. Please feel free to contact our adoption attorney Michael Goldstein anytime toll free at 1-800-582-3678. He will be able to answer any questions you may have about us or the adoption process. You can also call us at our toll-free number, 1-888-895-8158. We’ll be happy to talk to you anytime. 

We wish you all the best.